Each year for the past three or four years, Anita and I get an invitation to attend the Chitterne Flower festival, and it is an event we always enjoy attending. This year was no exception, and the arrangements of flowers, with the theme “Quote: Unquote” were really breathtaking. I can’t remember all the connections between the quotes and the arrangements, but this one was “A Rose Between Two Thorns”, and just enjoy the others!
The food served in the Village Hall next door to the church was delicious, and at one moment in the afternoon, I think we could have convened a meeting of the Stonehenge Deanery Synod! We had the Lay Chairman, four clergy and the Archdeacon! We avoided that temptation by sitting and tucking into our scoff.
later in the day we returned to the church, and as I am prone to do, starting chatting to the visitors admiring the arrangements. One of the gents sitting quietly at the back of the church, engaged in conversation with me, and I asked him about the Veteran’s badge he was wearing. Of course, as an old soldier he was quite happy to tell me all about his regiment, and the places that he served. He carried on to tell me about some of the Chaplains that he served with as well.
We were able to chat easily, and after a while, as old soldiers do, he picked up on something that had been troubling him for a long time, but he claimed that no padre had been able to sort for him. I’m quite used to being challenged by military personnel, and often I can’t offer the answer someone is looking for – but I try to share the dilemma, and encourage the person to keep searching and to trust in God for truth.
With all that he had witnessed, how could he believe in a God who allows good people to suffer. I said that I could not answer that for him, but I have often asked myself that question, and for myself, I came to the conclusion – how do we know that we are loved?
When my children asked me, Daddy, do you love me?, and I answered Yes, of course I love you, they would follow up with, How do we know that you love us? I replied, Because I will always try be here for you; when the life you lead is good, you’ll not need to ask me that question, but I will still love you. When the life you lead is tough, you will not need to ask if I love you, because I will be there for you, and I will do anything I can to make the pain and the hurt, [which we all suffer, all of us]; I will do anything I can to make that pain and hurt more bearable. How will you will know that I love you? Because the pain you are suffering, however it is caused, allows me to show you how much I love you.
The old soldier smiled, and nodded his head, said thank you, and walked away to give his wife a warm, long and lingering hug. And we said it with Flowers.